This blog post is the part of a six-post series paraphrased from the sermons of Pastor Mark Hughes of the Church of the Rock, Winnipeg in connection with the ‘40-Days of Community’ small-groups initiative. 40-Days of Community is a method of extending love in the way Pastor Rick Warren of Saddleback church has demonstrated. Ideas in this series are not mine, I have only a paraphrasing role.
Proverbs 18: 24
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
How to have friends? Must be friendly first. Then you will have no dearth of friends.
Communication: Human beings have complex communication powers – 1000’s of languages, not counting the grunts! Animals have language too; but it is very limited.
Facebook friendship is shallow. 100s of friends, but they would not be available for even one minute of face-to-face talking.
Three types of friendships:
Statistically on 10% of men share their intimate thoughts; on the other hand, 35% women have friends with whom they share.
There are three elements of getting closer together in friendship. The acronym for these points is GLU – short for glue. G for grinding, L for loving, U for unselfishness.
G for Grinding: Like iron on iron, grinding produces sharpness. Having intimatemoments with others draw them closer. Camping, fishing, travelling, together maypresent discomforts in comparison with the cosy comforts of the home; but theyproduce lasting relationships. Superficial relationships are aggravated in the processto meaningful ones.
L for love:
Children cannot grow without love. Food and shelter are not everything. Without love, they die.
Sexuality is not about intimacy. Girls grow up thinking that in order to be attractive and desirable, they should be sexually appealing, which is wrong.
Love is not an emotion; it is a serious decision.
U – unselfishness
Love requires sacrifice:
John 3.16: For God so loved(A) the world that he gave(B) his one and only Son,(C) that whoever believes(D) in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
Selfishness is the opposite of love.